The Plagued Parent

posts about surviving our children, the Baby Boomers who raised us, and everyone else with an opinion...

Watch This

When we started this blog a couple years ago, the furthest thing from our minds was making money or advertising products. Recently a company named JORD (pronounce Y-ord) contacted us by email and I pretty much overlooked the message as another form of spam. Several weeks ago my wife asked, “Did you see that email from […]

Golden Repairs


Habit demands discarding the broken vase, or bowl or coffee mug; toss its ceramic fragments deep into the plastic trash bags that line the kitchens and the workshops of our lives. Rare occasions exist, the time and place are just so, when we stand in stillness holding the crushed pieces of fragile ceramic glass in raw and bloody palms […]

Everybody Knows, or at least they should…

Bottom line: we all should know by now. For weeks I’ve listened to both sides, from Bill Maher to Rush Limbaugh, and the rhetoric and vitriolic tones reveal our further descent into madness. For both sides, this election cycle has become one of rationalizing rather than reasoning — although one could argue that Clinton’s side is […]

Trump unshackled?

All this Trump stuff makes my head hurt. I am not alone in thinking this. Last summer a group of clinicians calling themselves  Citizen Therapists  crafted a manifesto declaring how damaging Trump, and his ideology of “Trumpism” is for our collective mental health. Professionals are worried. No wonder. By now we’ve all seen or heard […]

Me and Emily at the Stardust, 1958


He insisted they move his room so the moonrise and the evening sky would be more visible, pointing out that Johnson across the hall made it easier for them to comply with his request since Johnson died last week and the room was empty. The staff could not come up with a reason to say no, so they carted his […]

Roger’s A-1 Automotive

Mercifully my car was not on Roger’s lift. He swore loudly tossing an angry wrench at his pristine metal toolbox. He paused, reconsidering this action then lifted and returned the 1 1/8 to its rightful place. “Damn it all to hell,” he raged, “Look at this!” He waved a finger covered with oily murk in my direction. I […]

Spiced Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Bread

It is officially Fall and while I don’t support the Pumpkin Spice craze, I can definitely get behind a Spiced Pumpkin bread! Especially when it includes chocolate chips! I got this recipe from my friend Amy (the creator of this yummy ice cream treat) and added my own twist to it. The recipe makes two […]

You Go Girl!

My 15-year old daughter never ceases to surprise me. Recently she’s brought up a number of cultural inconsistencies that are driving her batty. In fact, they would no doubt make many of us bat-shit crazy too if we only bother to open our eyes and apprehend them. Observation One: Boys don’t get wardrobe infractions.  The question […]

Hashtag This!

From time to time we are made aware of things our oldest does on the internet. For example, the Father’s Day tribute she paid to her Grandfather and Uncle, calling them the men who raised her. Ouch. That was not a flesh wound. Or this… #MyTendencyToCallMyselfADadisRootedInADeepLackofFatherlyAcceptance #Freud #Heck What to make of this, I thought. My […]

Fairy Tales of the Mind

Sometimes I wonder what (or who) lives deep inside the mind. More importantly I wonder when they moved in and claimed their space. Worse still, like recently graduated millennials, once these notions move in they tend to reside rent free. Who can we blame for these fairy tale notions that distract us from living our lives? […]

Microscopic Aggression is an Oxymoron

So have you heard the latest bullshit about microaggressions? In a recent post about trigger warnings, a reader posted a comment asking this question. As a matter of fact I have heard about this latest bullshit called microaggressions. As a matter of fact, I responded, I was considering a post on that very topic. Here […]

Chocolate Chunk Cupcakes with Vanilla Bean Buttercream Frosting

These cupcakes are delicious, and almost muffin-like. Full of yummy chocolate chunks I love to eat them as is, without frosting. Recently we were going to a cookout and I wanted to make them, but decided they needed to be dressed up a bit. A light vanilla bean buttercream frosting was the answer! I hope […]

Trigger this!


Actually, no part of your classroom education should be intellectually “safe”. This is how I began my semester last week, by reminding a new crew of Freshman that if you’re practicing “safety” in the classroom, then you are not stretching your intellectual boundaries. Let me explain… Over the past several years or so colleges, universities and […]

Let them Be


According to a recent study out of MIT, your friends don’t like you. You’ve probably already suspected as much. Your family probably doesn’t like you all that much either, they just tolerate you because of the shared DNA and the money you owe them. This MIT study suggests that, at least in terms of friendship, […]

Did you sign the waiver?

At the beach the other day, I saw something familiar play out . A mother was trying to coax her daughter into the rough surf at the Charlestown Breachway Beach. “Look,” the mom said, “your father and sister are out there, and I’m going because it’s too hot to sit here. So, let’s go!” The little girl, about […]

Hammer Time

Maggie hated shopping with her four kids but she especially hated going down three specific aisles: snacks, cookies and cereal. Inevitably, fights broke out over who picked what last time and who always gets his or her way and that the criteria for choosing stuff should be: age, or height, or the ability to actually read […]

Traveling Mom-isms

We spent a recent weekend with family friends in New York City. My family has been numerous times but this was the first that I actually “listened” to what the moms were saying to our kids — and not just the two moms we travelled with. Mother’s and wives from all over — Germany, England, […]


Across the Adirondacks, sweeping down from Michigan, the emerald ash borer has rapidly devoured 50 million trees reducing forest bark to pulp. Swaths of eastern forest dead and yet the cause for concern is that Rawlings may not be able to make baseball bats for the major leagues when ash trees cease to grow. Gypsy moth caterpillars […]

Beware the Millennial Apocalypse

Not so long ago I had to face the fact that I fathered a narcissist with a capital “N”. I am not alone. It would seem that many of us responsible for bringing children into the world over the past twenty years have raised, well, assholes. We didn’t do this on purpose. We had the […]

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