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Every question has an answer.

Or, so we are led to believe. But are we asking the right ones?

My officemate and I were having a conversation the other day about a controversy on campus. Emails have been flying back and forth, forth and back. A fair number of learned and esteemed colleagues were trying to “make their points” known.

In other words they hoped their assertions existed in a realm beyond question.

I said something to my officemate along the lines of, “Everyone is forcing the question, but nobody is asking the right one.” At the time she agreed.

Occasionally, our actions force a question. Once asked, we need to deal with it and all the ramifications nailed to it.

The problem, however may not be with the question itself, but more likely the answer we offer.

And in providing answers, some truths are magically revealed.

Sometimes when the questions are more rhetorical, we know the answer will usually be no different than the last time we asked it.

Yet, we ask all the same.

It’s as if our hope is to escape the inescapable. We’ll still end up doing the thing we’re attempting to avoid — but, we ask all the same. Just in case

Questioning the question.

Today someone asked If I was tired of asking the same questions over and over.

My initial response was: Yes.

Later, I thought that answer over. You might say I questioned it; I questioned the question.

After twenty plus years as a professor I consider myself a professional “questioner”. I have pretty much made a career asking the same questions over and over.

And guess what?

I rarely get the same batch of answers twice.

I’ve basically given up hoping to get the same answers as if the repetition of identical answers adds solidity to the world. Numerous circumstances affect the ways in which we will answer the deeper questions of character, being and spirit.

Perhaps, on some level asking the same questions over and over many not necessarily be a sign of insanity, it may be a way of building a bridge towards wisdom.

If we’re careful, consistent and persistent certain patterns emerge from these questions we pursue and the answers we eventually subdue.

Sometimes the best answer to the worst question leaves us warm and cozy by the fire. Assuming we follow our gut and answer each and every question for ourselves, in our given language and on our own terms.


Part of the Blogging A to Z Challenge

Updated: April 21, 2017 — 2:04 pm


  1. Love the Calvin and Hobbes cartoons. I think there’s always room for surprise. I think in my job, things are fairly predictable but then something will happen that’s totally unexpected. Maui Jungalow

    1. Yes, there is always something new lurking around every corner. So long as that something does not have fangs and claws, I’m good with it.

  2. How neat, my Q post was about Questions too! Love you take on it though. Love the line “Sometimes the best answer to the worst question leave us warm and cozy by the fire.” I need to take that into my life and remember it. Thank you for your insight as always 🙂

    1. I will certainly have to go and check out your post right after I type this reply. And thank you for dropping by.

  3. We have the same issues at work!!

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